No one wants to be seen as selfish, least of all a chronic people-pleaser like me. But I’m really trying to put myself first; to make the changes in my life which I know will make me happier, less anxious, and more fulfilled. My beautiful friend Grace Latter discussed self care in a blog post, quite rightly pointing out that it’s not all glamorous Insta-worthy bath bombs and delicate afternoon teas.
My self care is…
Herbal tea before bed, sipped while I read or chat to Jack about the day.
Getting up at 5am on a Monday morning for a gym class I know will leave me buzzing with endorphins and aching all over for the next few days.
Saying ‘no’ to work drinks when I’m drained because I’ll feel better with pizza and wine in hand, curled up on the couch with my boyfriend.
Leaving the car at home and walking to work, listening to my favourite podcasts.
Taking ten minutes to clean the messy part of the house because I know it will also help me de-clutter my mind when it’s racing a million miles a minute.
Re-watching my favourite sitcoms or stand-up acts even though I know them by heart.
Unfollowing those ‘friends’ of convenience on Facebook, or the Instagram feeds which spark negative thoughts or self-doubt.
Walking away from my desk at lunch time, taking my book to a bench on the riverbank and leaving for behind for an hour.
Putting a few drops of lavender oil in a diffuser before I fall asleep, or lighting a scented candle while I study.
Buying flowers on sale at the supermarket for myself, just because.
Taking Percy to the beach and watching his little doggo face light up as he tears down the sand to the waves.
Distancing myself from toxic relationships and people who make me feel like I can’t be my true self
Remembering to take a few deep breaths.